Some of it is based on what we think we need to do to be good enough and some of it is based on what we think we need to do to make others think we are good enough.Īnytime you use others as an indicator of what you think you need to do you are in trouble. It’s perplexing because one day perfection might be this and then it’s that. Why? Perfection doesn’t exist but we still try to get it or find it but we don’t really know what ‘it’ is. Trying to attain perfection will set you up for failure every time. Michelle’s law of potentiality: you see glimmers of it and keep trying to find it (in other people & in things) but you never quite get there. We feel ‘good enough’ and others witness it and ‘think we are good enough’. That brush with perfection makes us happy and excited and we don’t want to ever leave that space. Sometimes we get a taste of what we think is perfection and that potential leaves us wanting more. Hmmm… Why is that? The illusion of perfection is so intriguing and glamorous for sure but the real reason is because if we aren’t striving for perfection each day in every way we ‘aren’t good enough’ or people will ‘think less of us’. When they are asked about whether there is such a thing as perfection, the answer is a resounding ‘no’ every time but they still strive for it. So many athletes and elite performers strive for perfection on a daily basis. You are not inherently a better person because you achieved or less of a person if you did not. It is important to separate your worth from your achievements. The risk is that when the achievements end, we feel less lovable and worthwhile, and thus crave PERFECTION. We feel inherently more lovable and worthwhile when we achieve. Over time, it is not uncommon for their worth as a person to be contingent on those achievements. Many high-achieving athletes are celebrated for their capacity to achieve.
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